If you recently witnessed squirting (on film or IRL!) and want some answers, or you’re simply curious following a humble brag you heard in the locker room, we have good news for you.
The rumors are all true: Squirting (also known as female ejaculation – although you don’t have to identify as female to enjoy it) is entirely possible. Better yet, with a few tweaks and tips, you can learn how to make a woman squirt too.
Say what? That’s right folks, while not as common or as easy to achieve as it is for men, vagina-havers can also ejaculate fluids from their urethra for sexual pleasure purposes too, and squirting is real. Keep scrolling for hot tips on how to make her squirt.
What is squirting?
For many – men and women included – squirting is still something of a mystery. Where does the liquid come from? What does it feel like? And crucially, is it just pee?
Opinion is divided, but recent studies suggest that squirting is technically neither urine nor ejaculate. According to a 2021 literature review, the fluid is a mixture of several components, believed to come from the Skene glands, often loosely referred to as the ‘female prostate’.
Squirt juice is made up of a substance called urea, along with uric acid, ejaculate, and creatinine (not to be confused with a bodybuilder’s favorite creatine). Confused? Don’t stress. To be honest, the origin of the squirting fluid is beside the point. The important thing to remember is that (for some lucky ladies) it feels good to gush. And if it feels good, you should keep doing it.
How much do women squirt?
Sperm, as you will know, is milky and white and produced in teaspoon-sized amounts. By contrast, the fluid produced from squirting tends to be watery in consistency and is likely to soak your sheets. That said, we’re not talking bucketloads here. Most women can’t (or choose not to) squirt, so don’t be dismayed if you don’t get to experience it, as squirters are in the minority.
‘When squirting or gushing happens, a large amount of clear water-like fluid is expelled from the urethra,’ explains Adam Breedon, co-founder of Godemiche, purveyors of handcrafted silicone dildos. ‘But unlike in porn, squirting can be more of a gentle gush or a small trickle, rather than a geyser-like action,’ he adds.
How to make a girl squirt
To make a girl squirt all you need is lube, luck, sex toys, and a willing partner. But before we get started, don’t forget that sex is a two-way street. While you can certainly ‘help’ your partner reach orgasm, it is not your sole responsibility to make her squirt like a fire hydrant.
We have a few techniques you can try together that will point you in the right direction, but the truth is unless your partner has already worked out how to do it all by herself (ask her!) you can’t fast-track your way to Squirt Town. Work as a unit and make pleasure your main objective, so that spunky expulsions become a bonus rather than the main event.
11 Steps to Make a Girl Squirt
From foreplay to fingering tips, keep scrolling for your tips to make a girl squirt…
1. Set the scene
As with any sexual encounter, intimacy, sensuality, and passion are all essential slices of the pie. Feeling relaxed will also get you both closer to the goal, so make sure you set the scene before you start digging around in her vagina. Light candles, play sexy music, kiss passionately, and focus on the journey – not the destination.
2. Adjust your expectations
High expectations are likely to sabotage your squirt plans by ‘making you both tense and unrelaxed,’ says Lelo sex expert Kate Moyle. ‘This will distract you from enjoying sex and the sensations that are the best part of sex,’ she adds. ‘The goal of sexual experiences should always be fun and pleasure.’ Amen to that.
3. Communicate your desires
We shouldn’t have to point this out, but consent is key! So, make sure you’re both on board with the concept of squirting before you proceed. Communication is important, but it can be sexy too, so connect to ensure you’re always on the same page. If you’re feeling shy, try whispering your wants and desires to her.
4. Prep your surroundings
Sex is supposed to be messy so if you’re serious about squirting, now is not the time to get precious about your soft furnishings. However, the amount of fluid varies from person to person – some vulva owners might release a teaspoonful while others can soak a whole bedsheet. If you’re concerned about losing your rental deposit, chuck a towel down before you get stuck in.
5. More foreplay please
Foreplay is crucial and should be the bedrock of all sexual encounters. If you’re new to the concept, gently nibble her neck and kiss her all over. Build things up slowly from there, until eventually, you’re stimulating her clitoris with your mouth, fingers, or a sex toy. If you need a helping hand, this finger vibe is a great way to get her in the mood.
6. Familiarise yourself with the female anatomy
Effective squirting typically requires a combination of G-spot and clitoral stimulation, but every woman is different, so experimentation is key. For the uninitiated, the G-spot is an area that sits just inside the front vaginal wall. It feels textured and often swells up as she becomes aroused. However, instead of hunting for a specific button, you’ll save yourself a whole lot of hassle if you get her to tell you (or better yet, show you) what feels good.
7. Work your magic
Once you’ve established what she likes and you’re both good and turned on, it’s time to start the party. With your palm facing upwards, insert two fingers (adding lube if necessary) and make a beckoning motion inside her vagina. Use tapping, stroking, and caressing movements on and around her G-spot, all the while following cues from her about what feels good.
8. Use sex toys!
G-spot stimulation alone is unlikely to yield any fluids, so a clit-stimulation sex toy can be a fun addition to playtime and will boost your chances of achieving the desired results. ‘Bring your favorite toys out to play!’ says Breedon. ‘The Ambit was designed specifically as a G-spot dildo and can hit that right spot when it comes to getting your partner to squirt. Blindfolds can also help your partner focus more on all the sensations!’
9. Teamwork makes the dream work
You are more likely to make your girlfriend squirt if she’s playing an active role in the proceedings, so encourage her to alternately squeeze and bear down on your fingers until she starts to tingle. However, what works for one woman might be uncomfortable for another, so keep checking in with her regularly. If plugging away for 40 minutes fails to reap even a single droplet of squirt, have a rest and try again later.
10. Pace yourself
For most people, squirting only occurs once the G-spot area becomes engorged. So, when it starts to swell, don’t stop! Maintain a steady pace and keep the same finger motion and pressure going. ‘Once you’ve hit that sweet spot, keep stimulating it,’ advises Breedon. ‘Your partner may feel a tingling sensation once you have started to hit the G-spot, almost like they’re going to urinate,’ he adds. ‘But be patient. If it doesn’t happen this time – keep using the skills you’ve learned and take your time.’
11. Don’t stress
While stimulating the G-spot area may help her to squirt, there are no guarantees. ‘It’s important to remember that women’s experiences of ejaculation vary a lot, so what’s normal for one could be very different to another,’ says intimate health specialist Dr Shirin Lakhani. ‘There isn’t one medical failsafe way of making ejaculation occur, it’s about working out what works for the individual – and often this comes through lots of trial and error,’ she adds.
How to Make a Girl Squirt: Positions
Keen to make a woman squirt during penetrative sex? Any sexual position that stimulates her G-spot and clitoris at the same time is likely to have a squirt-inducing effect.
‘Positions, where you can easily reach the vulva for manual stimulation, are optimal,’ suggests Breedon. ‘Same with positions that enable you to hit the front vaginal wall – reverse cowgirl or modified doggy, lying flat on the bed.’ To help you get started we’ve picked three, below.
1. Doggy style
This move provides an ideal angle for you to reach the front vaginal wall. Opt for a shallower stroke to target the G-spot and hold a vibrator against her clit to make squirting more likely.
2. Spooning
In this move, your penis points directly toward the G-spot while, again, leaving the clitoris open for stimulation. Plus, she can lean forward or push back into you to nail the positioning.
3. Reverse cowgirl
This is the ultimate position for dual G-spot and clit stimulation – plus, she’s in control throughout, which will get her fired up while at the same time removing the guesswork for you.
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